What can I do?

If you’re being bullied, it’s not your fault. But you do need to take action to make the bullying stop. Here are tips and advice on how to deal with bullies and stay safe.

Tell people

  • Tell your friends so they can support you.
  • Tell your parents or a teacher so they can help it stop.
  • Keep telling people until the bullying stops. It may not stop the first time you tell your parents or teacher. So tell them again until it does.

Keep a record

  • Write down how you feel in a diary – keep track of everything that happens.
  • Don’t reply to messages from bullies – keep them to show an adult.

Stay away from the bullies

  • Stay in a group and keep away from the bullies if you can.
  • Don’t fight back – you may be the one who gets in trouble.
  • If you are being bullied online on social media sites (‘cyber bullying’) find out how to block the bullies.


If a friend is bullying you, this is sometimes called a ‘frenemy’. Here are some ideas for how to deal with frenemies:

  • Stand up for yourself – next time they put you down just say “hey, that’s not nice”, don’t let them carry on treating you badly.
  • If that doesn’t work then try and have a chat to them on their own; it will give them a chance to think about it and realise what they are doing.
  • If it carries on then just stop hanging out with them; real friends don’t make you feel bad . There’s probably no point having a ‘break up’ conversation, just avoid them and let the friendship drift apart – give yourself chance to make new, better friends.

“You’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”

– Christopher Robin